I too grew up placing flowers on graves of ancestors, but my mom cleaned the graves regularly and we placed flowers on all holidays. I still do, and will continue to do so until I can no longer drive down. For me, as a kid, it was always serious business, and mom taught us to not walk on graves, etc. I've tried to instill this in my own kids, and hope they are able to continue this tradition of connecting and honoring family history.
I too grew up placing flowers on graves of ancestors, but my mom cleaned the graves regularly and we placed flowers on all holidays. I still do, and will continue to do so until I can no longer drive down. For me, as a kid, it was always serious business, and mom taught us to not walk on graves, etc. I've tried to instill this in my own kids, and hope they are able to continue this tradition of connecting and honoring family history.